You might be the most effective man in your industry. You close deals, manage teams, and spot opportunities before anyone else.

Yet, when you sit across from a beautiful woman, that strategic brilliance often dissolves into a messy attempt to perform.

You start selling yourself. You list your accolades. You over-invest in the first ten minutes.

This is the default mode for most high-achieving men. You treat dating like a sales pitch where you are the product and she is the skeptical buyer.

This dynamic kills attraction before it can even breathe.

I had a client named Steve who was the definition of success in real estate. On paper, he was unmatched. But in his dating life, he was running a charity, not a partnership.

Steve had a routine. He met a woman, and within weeks, he was flying her to Miami. He took them on five-star shopping sprees. He even bought cars for women he barely knew.

He thought he was demonstrating value. He thought he was showing them what a great provider he could be.

The result was always the same. The women went cold. They returned the gifts. They vanished.

Steve wasn't building connection; he was trying to buy insurance against rejection. His behavior screamed that he didn't believe his personality was enough to keep them interested.

We had to break him down to build him back up. I gave him a hard rule: absolutely no gifts and no trips until he had dated someone for six months.

It was brutal for him. He felt naked without his wallet as a shield. But it forced him to actually listen. He had to rely on his character, his humor, and his ability to connect.

That shift changed everything. He met an incredible woman, took it slow, and they are now engaged.

He stopped chasing validation with his credit card and started commanding respect with his standards.

When you chase, you are operating from scarcity. You are telling the world that this opportunity is rare and you are lucky to be there.

A man with true Inner Sovereignty knows his value is a fixed asset. It doesn't fluctuate based on whether she texts back in five minutes or five hours.

If you are constantly initiating, over-planning, and auditioning for her approval, you are fragmented. You are handing over your power.

Attraction isn't something you pursue. It is a dividend paid on a life built with intention.

Commanding isn't about being loud or controlling. It is about the standards you hold.

A man operating in abundance vets. He evaluates. He sits back and asks himself, "Is this person worthy of the life I have built?".

This changes your energy entirely. You stop performing and start assessing.

You move from being a guest in your own life to being the host.

When you treat your time and attention as high-value currency, others instinctively respect it. You create a Gravity Well where people are drawn to you because you are centered, not frantic.

Stop trying to convince women to like you. Start determining if they align with your mission.

The moment you stop fearing loss is the moment you become magnetic. You are not looking for a woman to complete you.

You are looking for a partner who can run at your pace. Steve learned that his money could buy company, but only his authentic self could earn loyalty.

Stop wasting weeks on people who don't qualify for your time. For your next three dates, use The Vetting Protocol to reveal character rather than rehearsing your résumé.

In the first 10 minutes, ask her: "What is the one thing you are most passionate about building right now?".

Watch her reaction.

• Does she light up and talk about a project, a hobby, or a personal goal? (High value/Passion) .



• Does she look confused or give a vague, surface-level answer? (Lack of purpose) .



This immediately shifts the frame. You are no longer the one trying to impress.

You are the one determining if she meets the standard.

You either commit to the standard or you don't. The choice is yours.

Stay Magnetic (and have a fantastic week!), 😉

~ Angela Seitz