I used to have a client named David back in my matchmaking days.

David was a brilliant guy. He had a great career, a sharp mind, and a solid bank account. On paper, he was a catch.

But David had a uniform: a baggy hoodie and sweatpants.

It didn’t matter if it was a Tuesday afternoon or a Friday night date at a nice restaurant. He refused to dress up.

When I pressed him on it, he got defensive.

“Angela,” he’d say, “Society shouldn’t judge people by what they wear. Everyone should be treated equally. If she can’t see past the hoodie, she’s not for me.”

He was attracting women, sure. But they were never the women he actually wanted to date. The quality women he desired took one look at him and mentally checked out.

I had to give him a rude awakening.

I told him the brutal truth: “You want a woman who values herself, takes care of her body, and presents herself with class. But you’re showing up looking like a teenager who just rolled out of bed.”

He was trying to buy respect with his resume while losing it with his appearance.

In the Magnetic Gentleman philosophy, we talk about the "Four Capitals." One of them is Physical Capital.

Most men think style is vanity. They think caring about clothes is superficial.

That is a lie you tell yourself to stay lazy.

Your image is a signaling mechanism. It is the gatekeeper to your success.

Before you open your mouth to share your life story or your jokes, your appearance has already spoken for you.

If you walk into a date with ill-fitting clothes and scuffed shoes, you are signaling low status. You are signaling a lack of self-awareness.

You are telling that woman, "I don't care enough about this interaction to present my best self.".

David was stuck in the "Idealist" trap. He believed the world should be a certain way.

He thought his character should outweigh his presentation.

But we live in reality. Human beings are biological scanning machines. We make judgments in milliseconds to determine safety and value.

When you dress poorly, you create cognitive friction.

You force the other person to work harder to find your value. You are asking her to dig through the "trash" of your presentation to find the "treasure" of your personality.

Women with self-respect do not have time for that.

You cannot talk your way out of a bad first impression.

I don’t care how nice you are or how hard you work. If you show up looking sloppy, you have lost the frame before you even sit down.

Visual Sovereignty means you control the narrative.

When you dress with intention, you signal competence. You signal that you handle your business.

You don't need a tuxedo. You don't need to spend thousands on designer labels.

You just need fit, cleanliness, and intentionality.

When David finally ditched the hoodie for a tailored jacket and crisp boots, the dynamic changed overnight.

He didn't become a different person. He just removed the barrier that was preventing women from seeing the man he actually was..

Go to your closet right now.

Imagine you are at the airport. You bump into the most important person from your past, or the woman of your dreams.

Look at the outfit you would wear on a standard casual date.

If you bumped into them while wearing that, would you feel confident? Or would you feel the need to apologize for how you look?

If you would apologize, throw it out.

I have never seen a man improve his style and lose respect. It is the highest ROI investment you can make in your dating life.

It’s a small change that makes a massive difference, and I’m rooting for you to make it happen.

Stay Magnetic (and have a fantastic week!), 😈

~ Angela Seitz